Women's Dating Strategy

Dating strategies to ace your date. Insights to help plan a proper date and avoid awkward dates.

Dates, dates, dates... While some ladies enjoy going on dates, others think it's pretty awkward and even strenuous. When it comes to dating tips for women, one size or technique doesn't fit all. A young woman in her teens or 20s dates A LOT differently than a woman in her 30s and 40s. And while most women generally want the same outcome, there are certain things women in their 30s and 40s know about dating that they disregarded or simply didn't focus as much on in their younger years.

Dates are meant to be fun, you know, meeting with someone you like or maybe even love. But sometimes it can get us wondering how we are supposed to act, talk, and even eat (especially if you are meeting for the first time).

That's why we'll share some interesting thoughts of top dating experts that saw it as the most important dating advice in general for women who are out of their 20s or 30s and ready for something serious.

Now, take a deep breath and relax, life is not that hard and those worries will make things worse. Rather than to get anxious over how and what to do right on your date. We'll share some essential dating tips for women to help you make the most of your date. 

1.) Don't be Quick to Judge

This is the 21st century and if there's one thing you should be reminded of, it is to not judge a book by its cover. I know it's quite easy to fall for people's outward appearances but be sure what you see is in sync with what he is.

Just because a man is arrayed in the splendour of shiny shoes, a 3 piece suit, and fluent language use doesn't necessarily represent that he is responsible or serious. 

On the contrary, a man whose tie doesn't match his shoe color on a dinner date might be the down to earth individual you'll get to meet in that decade. You might think, am I saying you should discard a well dressed man for a shabby looking fellow because he might be Mr. Right?

No, Not at all.

The motive here is, appearances are great but forming an impression out of it would be making a mistake. Way forward? Listen to his words, actions and attitudes, chances are, you'll get a hint of his real persona.

2.) Be You 

This is one dating tip that can't be emphasised enough. Some women are struggling to keep up with the image they projected of themselves when they went on dates. It's okay to want to be at your best on the date, what is not okay is losing yourself in order to impress him. Think for a second, you would not want to lose your self-image or the real you for just an extra impression or validation.

Consider an example to get a brevity. Let's say; he gives you a hint that he likes bright colored dresses, don't ditch your favorite peach gown for that red velvet dress you despise, just to get in his good books. If you don't like eating too much and he says he likes girls who eat like they are going on a hunger strike tomorrow, please don't be fazed; comfortably order your fat-free and lean protein kind of dish. Project your real self.

3.) Know Your Wants 

Whether it's before, during or after the date, it's important for you to know and understand what you want and what works for you. If what you want in a man is quite different from who is sitting before you, be honest with yourself about it. be

Also, don't set unrealistic standards for who you want your dream man to be. I mean, it's quite funny when a needy, disrespectful woman won't go for any guy that's not 6'5, respectful, caring and rich as a life partner.

4.) Keep it Short, Simple and Precise 

While you are on a date, you are expected to have fun. So keep in mind that lengthy discussions about your failed relationships, the baby shower of your dreams, and other controversial topics aren't necessarily useful on dates.

Seriously, you really don't have to talk about your wedding or how many kids you would like to have during a date. There is plenty of time to discuss that when you guys get more serious. But at this stage, it comes off as desperate and a little too much. In case, the two of you may get carried away talking about topics you didn't even plan on talking about.

If it flows naturally, and you're both interested in such topics, then by all means, you can chatter away. However, it's always best to save such discussions for much later. I mean, there's really no rush.

5.) Don't Lie. Don't Even be Arrogant

Sure, you want to impress each other, but honesty from the start is a prerequisite to trust, says psychotherapist, Dr. Jennifer Freed. "If the picture or description of your date was inaccurate then the rest of the relationship will likely be filled with deceptions too."

6.) Pay Attention to This!

You know that feeling you get when you know something isn't quite right?

If your date can't answer simply about where he works or acts super shady, chances are something weird is going on.

"Listen to what your gut is telling you," says Dr. Melanie Mills. And that goes for behaviours too. If he's already getting on your nerves and it's only the first date that's another indicator that you're just not going to work.

7.) Know Your Worth

Most ladies often think they are not good enough especially when it comes to matters concerning their body. The truth is, you are perfect just the way you are, and guess what? There is someone out there who thinks you are enough and appreciates who you are. With this Mindset, it would make you feel more confident about yourself.

8.) Allow Him Treat You

A man who likes you would want to show you how much he does like you. He doesn't hold back his time and resources when it comes to the woman he likes so it is key to understand that most men are obliged to pay for the bills during a date.

Nevertheless, if you are not so comfortable with that idea, kindly speak up and let him know you would like to split the bills. If he insists, be cool with it

9.) Forget About any Texting and Calling Rules

Rules like 'wait 2-3 days to call back' no longer apply. "If you treat dating and love like a game, someone or both of you will end up the loser," says host of, The Rendezvous with Simon and Kim on iHeart Radio, Simon Marcel Badinter. "If you want to, call back in the next couple of hours. It has to be honest and spontaneous if you want to be respected and start a serious relationship."

10.) Don't Suppress Your Enthusiasm or Interest

One of the dating tips for women we hear a lot is not to let a man know you like him, or to play hard to get. Well, that societal construct can be wrong. Sure, a little mystery may be sexy in the beginning, but the game gets old fast. Even research shows that playing too hard-to-get makes others like you less. At a certain point, you just have to let the man know you're interested.

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So there you have it, ladies! I hope these dating tips will help you plan a proper and less awkward date.