The Secret To Building Passion & Desire With Your Guy
The Secret To Building Passion & Desire With Your Guy
(Become the couple who wants each other more than anything else)
Lots of things matter in life, your career, your health, Your finances, etc. But nothing matters quite as much as your relationships.
I mean, think about it. What's the fun of "succeeding" if there's no one to celebrate it with you?
Even something as simple as a beautiful sunset loses much of its significance if there's no one by your side to enjoy it with you.
Though I should confess...
I am a little biased. Because I'm enthusiastic about helping people find romantic bliss in their relationship and get the relationship they want.
You know what I'm talking about, right? Romantic relationships. Two people discovering a special kind of joy in each other's arms. Two people who want each other more than anything else.
It's exciting. It's beautiful. And it's worth going after.
But Sometimes You Don't Know How To Go After It
The man you love could be standing right in front of you, but you simply don't know how to win his heart. Or problems rob your relationship of momentum before it can become
what it was meant to be.
It's not fair! You can see what you want. And you're willing to work REALLY hard to get it. But there's something blocking your way.
Well, it comes down to this. There's nothing to grab on to! You can't get a foothold. It's like being at the bottom of a pit with perfectly smooth walls, rounded on all sides. You can't climb your way out if there's nothing to grab hold of.
The pit is just wide enough so that you cannot reach both sides at once. All the motivation in the world won't help you out of this situation. You need someone to throw you a rope.
But I've good news...
I'm about to throw you a rope
Momentum matters. Your relationship needs forward momentum. Without it you feel stuck in the mud. Like a race car with tons of horsepower but tires that spin uselessly in a muddy ditch.
But with momentum everything changes. With a running start, any car could coast past the muddy patch...even with flat tires. Pure momentum, it's powerful stuff. Momentum in the right direction. I don't care where things stand between you and your man right now.
Maybe he's a guy you've set your sights on. Or maybe you're already in some form of relationship with him.
Regardless, I'm going to show you how to use momentum to your advantage. I'm going to share Three Secrets For Building Momentum in your romantic relationship.
Here's the truth about why momentum works. It sets off a chain reaction. Most people feel stuck because they try to charge after romantic bliss. They look for the most direct route. But it only results in heartache.
And I need to tell you something...
If you're a woman who is used to succeeding in life, romance can be particularly frustrating for you. That's because you've learned how life works. You see what you want and you decide you're willing to pay the price to get it.
Typically, the "price" is a lot of hard work. You put in that hard work and you usually get the reward you were going after. But relationships don't work that way. You can't change the way someone else feels about you simply by trying harder.
You need a different tactic. I'd like to show you something that works better. It's a method for building momentum in your relationship.
It comes down to this very simple idea...
Create momentum by setting off a series of small chain reactions. Then let the power of those chain reactions build your momentum automatically and effortlessly.
The rest of this blog post is about showing you how to do just that. And we're going to start with a simple idea anyone can use in their relationship.
The hardest part about building momentum is the very first step.
A train can transport a lot of cargo, using a very small amount of fuel. And once the train's momentum builds, you better stay out of its way. But from a stopped position, the train can barely move at all.
It can feel like that in your relationship. Which is why a lot of people never bother with trying to build momentum. After a first attempt to budge the relationship forward, it feels hopeless. Nothing changed. You give up.
Most people have a fairly good idea of what they want from a relationship. They can see it clearly in their mind's eye. And when they go after a guy, it shows. They focus on the end result they're going for.
You as a female would typically focus on making a guy fall in love with her, so he will want to be her boyfriend or husband. That's the goal.
She doesn't think about much else beyond that goal. As a result, her vision of the future limits her success. Let me explain why.
It's easiest to explain with an example. So I'll show you how this works, consider Sara's story.
Sara wants Daniel to see her as more than a friend. So she does the kinds of things you would expect. She tries to hold his gaze a little longer. She looks for opportunities to get time with him alone. She does her best to look attractive whenever she's likely to bump into him.
Oh, and she actually bumps into him once in a while ("accidentally" of course). That's all great. The problem arises when he doesn't respond the way she wants him to. Frustration replaces hope. Irritation replaces confidence. And those emotions affect the way he perceives her. It changes the experience for him in a negative way.
And all this happens before she's had a chance to build up any momentum at all. After a few weeks of feeling frustration and despair, she tries again. But she simply repeats the same process over again. Try. Get frustrated. Give up. Repeat.
It's an endless cycle of frustration. What Sara needs is a foothold. Something that will let her get beyond the first step. That a foothold is something I call a "vision boost". It's where you forget about what you want from him, and focus instead on what he's missing.
And what is it that he's missing?
You.
You and the tremendous benefits he would receive if he could ever wake up to the reality of what you have to offer.
After all, you have a lot to offer, right?
I mean, If you truly love this man, his life is going to be MUCH better if he has you in it. That's because you want to make him happy.
You see, I'm only interested in those who are truly in love. Not people who want a boyfriend just for the status, money, sex, or anything like that. If that's all you're after, you may not actually have much to offer him.
But think about the value of true love...
Two people who love each other so much their greatest happiness in life comes from making the other partner happy.
When both people feel this way, a tremendous amount of value of happiness has been unlocked by a decision to be together. That's the value that you have to offer him. Never forget that. Because that's going to make all the difference in the "vibe" you give off while interacting with him.
It's a vibe that says...
"I'm cool, calm, patient, and completely confident in what I have to offer. You'd be lucky to have me. And the gift I have to offer you is literally priceless."
And Here's The Really Good News
Just like he can sense frustration, irritation, and annoyance, he can also sense the opposite. He can sense the positive, alluring vibe that happens when you focus on what you have to offer
But there's more to it than just that. Something changes inside you when you adopt this belief system. The belief that you have something incredibly valuable to offer. It changes the way you think.
And it changes the way you think in such a way that you begin to automatically build momentum. The way you build momentum is by investing in a future you feel confident about. You begin to take small actions that reflect the confidence you feel in what the relationship will become. You no longer make small, frustrated attempts to grasp for control. You see things differently now. He is coming to you.
With that new layer of patience, a second strategy becomes natural to you. I call it the 1% rule.
Let's review the main goal. It's momentum. Forward momentum for your relationship.
You want it. And you want it now.
Believe me, I understand. That's what I want for you too. But I don't want you to break your neck. And that's what happens when you go from 0 to 60 in an instant. Things break.
But I do want to remind you of something you may have forgotten. A simple and a basic truth about life you learned in kindergarten. I want you to think for a second, does a child learn walking just by stepping a few 20-30 steps?
No, right?! It would take one tiny step at a time...and discover a new, assertive identity on their own.
That's the 1% rule in a nutshell. Start small. Try to improve something by just 1%. It sounds like so little. And because of that, these small changes barely feel like changes at all. But if you're trying to get someone else to change, that's a good thing!
Start small. Let momentum build so it does
the work for you. Get someone to take action, and something strange happens. They observe their own actions and conclude it was a good way to go. What I'm referring to here is a unique finding from the field of social psychology experiments. Humans often look at their own actions to decide what they believe.
"It is better to take many small steps in the right direction than to make a great leap forward only to stumble backward."
- Old Chinese Proverb
So we're talking about momentum as it applies to your romantic life. How do you use the 1% rule to build momentum in your relationship right now?
Well, let me ask you. Can you imagine one tiny step?
One tiny action you could invite him to take?
One action that someone would only do if they liked you or wanted to spend more time with you?
Start there. See what happens. Build momentum. And here's why it's called the 1% rule. You can build momentum fast by improving your relationship just 1% at a time.
Trying To Improve Things By Just 1% Has All These Benefits:
It takes away the pressure. You can let go of the need to make him see you're the one for him. That will happen automatically if you just improve 1% at a time.
It sparks new ideas for improving things. Ideas that would never occur to you if you were racking your brain for one super powerful thing you could do to instantly turn the relationship around.
It lets you enjoy the journey. Instead of feeling like everything rides on your next interaction with him, you enjoy what's fun and build on that.
It seems like so little. But that's deceiving. Tiny change often results in big results much faster than we would expect.
That's because of the power of compounding. You're not just adding one plus one as the days pass. Because 1% of no relationship is very little, but 1% of a relationship that has been growing for several months is actually quite a lot.
That's human nature. We underestimate the power of compounding.
But you can use this to your advantage. Because now you know the second secret of building momentum. Get him to take action. Think small. Then think even smaller than that. Transform his small actions into a pathway that leads him to you.
Let's assume you're making progress with a guy. He's shown the early signs of interest.
And you can tell he genuinely enjoys spending time with you. But something is holding him back. What is it? Why does he seem to be dragging his feet? He was very interested in the relationship from the start. But now it's as if he's second-guessing his commitment. Like he's not sure about the thing that's building between the two of you.
Why Is This Happening?
I can take a pretty fair guess. It's ambivalence.
In other words, he feels pulled in two differ ent directions. He wants the good stuff that comes from his relationship with you. But he's nervous about what it all means.
Men go through several stages in life. Each stage changes how they react to the prospect of a committed relationship. So let me just give one summary statement.
Men like to win.
From the time they are boys, males hesitate to take on a challenge unless they have a certain level of confidence in a positive outcome.
How does that impact his approach to relationships? Well, in a relationship he wants to "win" at gaining your approval and status.
But wait a minute. If that's true, why is he holding back?
Can't he tell you want to move things forward? And the answer comes down to this:
A commitment creates a threat.
The threat comes from his fear of loss. You see, men judge themselves and other men based on accomplishments. It's like a rite of passage.
Then there's the desire to win at his relationship with you. That means gaining your approval. Success in a relationship means he has to keep you happy.
And why is that a problem? Because he's not sure he can please everyone at once. He's not sure who he will become if the relationship continues to move forward.
Ambivalence sets in. Ambivalence is the biggest enemy of momentum in romantic relationships. But I have a solution for you. The solution takes away his ambivalence.
How? By taking away his fear. And the secret is rather simple. Let's dig into this.
Give Him a Clear Definition of Success
That's it. But let me tell you why it works.
You see, he's not afraid of having a fantastic relationship with you. He's not afraid of succeeding with you. He's not afraid of creating something deep and meaningful with you.
Rather, he's afraid of failure. He's afraid of giving you the wrong idea and then changing his mind. He's afraid of losing. He's afraid of letting others down (you, himself, his friends). But most of all-and here's the really important part-he has one thing blocking his passionate abandon
It's not you. You are pleasurable and fun.
But commitment feels like something else. It feels like an unknown. And floating in a world of ambivalence, a world where he never totally commits to anything-allows him to sidestep the fear of getting stuck in a situation where he can't win. So your job is to remove the "unknown" part of this equation. Do that and everything changes.
How do you do that?
You do it by giving him a more concrete definition of success. In other words, show him exactly what he needs to do in order to "win" with you. Remove ambiguity. Remove the unknown.
It all started with just a few small changes. But those changes set off a chain reaction that builds relationship momentum.
Now what if I told you there is an even bigger way to tap into his natural instincts for taking action to move toward you? And what if it was something so powerful it had the potential to completely transform your relationship and break barriers that usually hold relationships in check?
That's what I'd like to show you next. And here's the crazy part…
This one idea dwarfs all the others. It has the power to single handedly transform your experience with men. And that's because it's like rocket fuel for your relationship.
The effect on your relationship will be much stronger and much more immediate than you would expect. So only use this last momentum booster if you actually want your relationship to make a sudden leap forward.
You're probably wondering what this is. And if you're an intelligent person, you might even be a bit skeptical of the claims. So let me explain what this is.
It's all about the signals that turn on one particular male obsession. An obsession so powerful, it has the ability to make or break your relationship. It's a secret obsession all men share. And it's affecting your relationship right now, regardless of whether or not you recognize its effects. Fortunately, it's something you can channel toward your relationship. You can sort of "plug-in" to This Secret Male Obsession and use its energy to sustain a relationship forever.
Knowing about this one obsession all men feel gives you a special insight. An insight that allows you to grow your relationship into something beautiful, stable, and incredibly intimate.
Would you like to know what that is?
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