Don't Do This Unless You Want To Push Him Away Even Further 

   (Make Him Dream of a Future Together / Dread the Thought of Losing You)

When you've shared a special connection with someone, it's hard to let it go. Especially when you know there's so much potential if he would just open up his heart to you again.

You could build a beautiful life together.

If that's something you want, it makes sense to try to convince him to give the relationship another shot, right?

Why wouldn't you try reasoning with him?

Why wouldn't you try to show him he's making a mistake by pulling away?

Yet this is where our instincts get it all wrong. And it's because trying to convince your ex simply doesn't work.

In fact, it's almost guaranteed to push him away. Fortunately, there's a simple way to powerfully open his heart up to you again...

The secret is to learn how to trigger his feelings.

You see... feelings will always trump logic. Every time.

Why?

Because emotions run the show for us.

We humans are not as rational as we'd like to believe.

That's true of all forms of decision-making, but especially when it comes to matters of the heart.

I'll show you what I mean. Let's try something.

Take a Quick Look at This List of Don'ts:

Don't Do This:

• Don't argue that he owes you an explanation since you know he still has feelings for you.

• Don't tell him the relationship was going just fine and then try to get him to own his share of the blame for why things began to fall apart.

• Don't imply he owes you something after all you've been through together.

• Don't try to prove you shared something special by forcing him to acknowledge specific examples from your past.

• Don't tell him real relationships take work and he needs to grow up.

Notice how you felt as you read that. It's probably clear that all that telling, convincing, and arguing will get you nowhere. In fact, it will simply reinforce the painful emotions that are driving him away from you in the first place.

Why?

Because his brain will automatically come up with counter-arguments.

For example, if you tell him things were great in the past, he will immediately test if that's true by scanning his memories for contradictory evidence.

He'll start thinking of all the fights, the frustrations, and other low points.

He'll mention those problems. And this will reinforce your efforts to convince.

You'll end up showing him your worst side.

Angry.

Desperate.

And if that goes on too long, you'll become bitter, resentful, and maybe even sarcastic.

It's a death spiral in any relationship.

You know it's true.

This is how we all react when something matters to us deeply but the other person refuses to be convinced. This is not what I want for you to show him.

Don't try to convince.

Instead, let HIS emotions do the work for you.

When you trigger certain powerful emotions within him, you will draw him irresistibly back into your arms.

The kind of emotions I'm talking about will make him dream of a future together and dread the thought of losing you.

These are the kind of deep emotions that lifelong partnerships are built upon.

There are many ways to trigger these kinds of emotions in your man, and it's not always easy to know exactly what to do.

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